Can a girl shoot her shot? What young people think on women making the first move

For years, society has always made us believe that a romantic relationship begins with a man’s confession.  We believed that a man should do the chasing, and the girl to do the waiting. Waiting for days on end, possibly months or even years for that sought-after “I like you.” 

However, what if it all changes and it is the other way round? What if it all plays out in a vice versa motion? In the Cat and Mouse chase, what if the pursuers become the pursued? 

Quite an irony if you ask me, as well as a stark contrast to the “well-kept tradition” of preserving one’s dignity and saving some face by patiently waiting for your prince charming to master up the courage to save you from your own feelings and emotions. 

What if Prince Charming is taking too long to dismount from his horse? Two choices for you. Let lonely sleeping beauty lie, or make that prince stay. 

Many have different opinions on this, as it is a topic widely discussed. Let's bring them all into the light, shall we? 

“Back in the days, boys were the ones who used to approach girls. It was all about genuine love. These days, girls are the ones approaching men. My opinion about that issue is that it is not about genuine love. Most Gen Zs do not want to be in a relationship, but they are after money,” says Wambo, a young, vibrant campus student. 

“When the man no longer has money, the girl will just walk away. My perspective is that girls approaching men are just after money and not genuine love,” she concludes. 

Wambo does not just share her personal opinion, but also reminds us of the tendencies of young and older women who get into relationships just for the money. 

They are emboldened by their materialistic ambitions enough to be the pursuers and keep their eyes and noses open to detect that one prey that reeks of cash. Quite bold of little red riding hood to hunt the wolf, don’t you think?

Milka is a 21-year-old lady who believes that there is absolutely nothing wrong with chasing the prince. 

“If you like someone, it's better you approach them and express your feelings she says. She not only encourages one to be expressive, but also speaks to them in person to be sure whether their feelings are genuine or false.  

“It is still fine if you get rejected because you've already expressed yourself, and you won't have to ever live with regrets. However, the moment you hesitate and the person decides to move on, you will live to regretfully ask yourself why you never made the first move.”

Theresa is 22 and believes in her feminine power. She is the kind of princess who does not really need a king to become a queen, but still appreciates the boldness and courage it takes for a girl to make that daring move in the war of love. “Love has no gender. If you love, you have to speak up for yourself, or you are going to lose,” she says. She believes that opportunity does not come often, so use it while you can. 

While it is a great change in times and generations, let's hear from the princes themselves if they like a bold princess or one who likes to be chased. 

While guys have always been the ones doing the chasing, deep down, there are those who like to be the prey instead of the predators. 

“It is still fine if you get rejected because you've already expressed yourself, and you won't have to ever live with regrets. However, the moment you hesitate and the person decides to move on, you will live to regretfully ask yourself why you never made the first move,” he says. 

Let’s see what two more will say about having their roles reversed with the ladies, shall we? 

Josh is a 25-year-old jack of all trades. According to him, confidence is attractive. A woman’s self-expression shows self-assurance and emotional maturity. 

He believes this not only breaks gender stereotypes, but it also saves time. Taking the initiative leads to clarity of the other person’s response towards their feelings, as well as encouraging equality. 

“But it’s not always easy,” he says. “Some women still face judgment or fear rejection. That’s why it takes real courage to be open about their feelings, and they deserve respect for that,” you heard the man say. 

He says the act of a woman taking the initiative is powerful and doesn’t make her desperate. It makes her honest, brave, and human. 

“Love doesn’t follow rules; it follows courage. A woman who expresses her feelings isn’t weak; she’s fearless enough to follow her heart,” Josh concludes with a powerful quote. 

Allan is a former teacher whose life is driven by utmost discipline and integrity. 

“I think it's not bad for girls to approach, though it will seem ironic to the culture.... But feelings are natural, and they need to be expressed; otherwise, they will damage the soul with a lot of problems and depression. Girls approaching is not a prob, but most of those that approach don't come with a genuine love,” he says.

“The ones that appear after someone has made it in life or achieved something great. Come with false intentions, though they may be sincere to themselves, but the love would be based on the achievement if there is no correction of thoughts,” Allan opines. 

Well, there you have it, folks. Turns out people find nothing wrong with this action. I mean, what difference does it make, regardless of who takes the first initiative anyway? 

Whether the princess saves the knight or chooses her prince instead of being chosen, what is wrong with that? Personally, I find it brave.