'Listen to her heartbeat,' Rev Kathy Kiuna reveals the secrets to a happy marriage

Kathy, who is married to man-of-cloth Allan Kiuna, began her Instagram post on Thursday with some truths for couples, stating that marriages are rarely easy.

Couples should join forces to ride out storms together, she says, rather than fighting issues with each other.

"At times in marriage, things may not move as smooth as a couple has hoped and prayed for, when it seems as if everything has turned upside down & things seem overwhelming and frightening," Rev Kathy captioned a photo on Instagram. 

"This is when the couple comes together with one heart & mind & decide to ride the storm together," 

Kathy, who runs a successful church ministry with her pastor husband, believes that couples should be each other's strength, especially when things get tough.

"One thing about marriage is that it's not every time that we are all strong. When your husband is weary in faith and his morale is down, that is the time to be strong for him and transfer hope back to him,"  she added. 

"When your wife's spirit and enthusiasm is down that is the time to stand by her and help to lift her spirit up. That's why we say, "Iron sharpens iron"."

Rev. Kathy, appearing to allude to their story of rising from the mud to the top of Kenya's social and economic ladder, stated that marriage is about a couple complementing and building each other up.

"Build one another up. Be there for one another for that is what marriage is about. Learn to know when your spouse needs encouragement and a lift in their spirit. When your wife has too many things bothering her, listen to her heartbeat," she added.

According to Rev. Kathy, it is the little things in marriage that make the whole clockwork tick, such as coming home a little early to keep your wife company.

 "It may entail you coming back a little earlier than usual to keep her company and help brighten her mood. 

"The wife will also do good to learn how to take care of her husband's emotions when his ego has taken a beating outside and when he is under pressure, especially financial pressure," Rev Kathy added. 

"Every couple is a team. We win together, we learn together and we win some more!"