Benjamin Zulu: Why you should not pay school fees for a woman before marriage

The life coach noted that men are fond of paying school fees for their partners hoping to marry them, then start crying foul when the women fall out of the relationship.

According to Zulu, women engage into relationship commitments with a specific gain of being educated, then leave once they have benefitted.

Zulu said two factors come to play that make women accept the offer: age and state of desperation.

He explained that young women have not fully developed brains and making clear judgments is challenging for them.

This, Zulu says, later changes when they reach the maturity age (25) and change priorities.

"You promise her that you will take her to school and that is all she wanted and she now feels happy and excited that she will now attend school," said Zulu on Citizen TV.

"But problem is there was nothing tied to marriage in her thoughts. Her mind has not fully developed and men know women's brains get to fully develop at 25 years but they still love engaging young women into relationships."

He added: "Problem is when this young lady starts to learn and her brain is developing she is exposed to more things and when she fully develops she withdraws from you because her priorities and preferences have changed." 

Zulu further blamed men for engaging young women into relationships with deceptive offers, thinking that they will tame them to be their wives.

He urged them to focus on more mature women who are ready for marriage lest they find themselves falling victims to regret.

"Marry women who are looking for husbands, their minds are psychologically ready for marriage. The journey of marriage is hard, it cannot be achieved by coercing a young child into it by paying school fees for her, " he said.