JAMILA'S MEMO: What is happening to humanity? Observations from a Kirinyaga home for the elderly
In Islam, we are
told about an occasion when someone asked our Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon
Him), a question. He asked him, who is most deserving of my kindness? and the
Prophet said your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your
father, then your nearest relatives…
I say this because
of a heartrending story we ran earlier this week about a home for the elderly
in Kirinyaga County.
Some 39 women call
the St. Mary’s Village Home for the aged their permanent address.
This is their life
now because they have no relatives. They do but it is sad that at this age they
are not surrounded by their family members, but strangers who have become
family. These strangers take care of them, give them food, safety and company.
Among them is
85-year-old Salome Muthoni who claims she came to the home after mistreatment
at the hands of her relatives.
“Tofauti na hapa
watu wa nyumbani hapana penda mimi na mimi sina mguu hakuna mtu wa kukungoja
nikaona hawa watu wananisumbua sana nikaangalia hapa iko mahali ya kuangalia
watu," Muthoni told Citizen Digital.
It’s a story told
by several women at the home, who claim they were neglected by their relatives
and have found a place where they are welcome, cared for and have friends.
What’s more
interesting is that there is a waiting list a mile long, for those who want to
bring their elderly here.
“Siku hizi sana
katika familia negligence imeingilia kwa sababu watu wamehama nyumbani wameenda
mijini kuna ile inatumika sana kama mila kwamba mtu hataki kusumbuliwa unaona
kuosha mama, kumpatia chakula kila siku tunaona ni kama tunasumbuliwa,"
said Fr. Michael Mutinda who is in charge of the home.
Kusumbuliwa…that’s
what our elderly parents and grandparents have become..wanaotusumbua. They have
become a burden and are forced to look for affection and care at the
hands of people who are basically strangers.
As a society we
are slowly forgetting our culture and roots, the value of a parent, the respect
we should show, the love and care that we should give especially when they need
us the most.
Leaving the
village and making a life in the city does not mean forgetting our wazee. Their
prayers and wishes matter; whether good and the bad bora baraka kuliko laana.
But when we
abandon them, maybe because they developed medical challenges or have simply
become a bother, we are forgetting a saying that malipo ni papa hapa
duniani..umri utakuja tu na utakupata hata wewe.
If the Almighty
wills it, we will live to a ripe old age and all of us would want to be cared
for by our relatives.
But when many of
us get caught up in our daily lives and forget those important individuals, we
are slowly losing our humanity.
In Kenya, we have
about 3 million elderly people, some of whom are happily living among their
relatives, but they are those who long to see those relatives, but are unable
to.
We should never
ever make the elderly feel like they are a burden. Instead, we should be
collecting their blessings and wisdom and pray for a good ending for them and
for us; it African. it is Christian, it is Muslim and it is just human and that
is my memo.
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