How friends and relatives can easily break your marriage

Married women are advised to think twice before allowing their female friends and relatives to stay at their homes or get close to their husbands.

Speaking on Citizen TV on Saturday, life coach and counselling psychologist Benjamin Zulu warned that keeping family and friends close to your husband could break your marriage.

Zulu explained that once a lady starts getting close to their brother-in-law, the man starts to get ulterior motives.

“Family are not always friends, don’t say that because you are related they will protect your marriage. Put boundaries, don’t delegate your wifely duties to another woman. You leave for a week, bring your small sister who sends signals….accidentally they get in contact with your husband,” Benjamin Zulu explained.

He added that not all friends will want one’s marriage to prosper, and some may work hard to break it.

“When you get married friends can be jealous. Remember all your friends will change, maybe only one will be happy for you. After you get married, put boundaries.”

In the Mawaidha na Bi Msafwari show, Presenter Dee added that when one shares secrets about another woman with their husband, it might be the genesis of breaking a marriage.

Dee said when a man identifies weaknesses in your friend or relative, they see it as an entry point to initiate a romantic relationship.

 “Many of us make our husbands gossip mates, sharing with them what happens to our friends. You announce your friend’s weaknesses to your husband and he gets a chance to see the weakness of your friend. The man starts pretending to be helping your friend. He becomes a joyrider,” she said.

During the conversation, a viewer shared that her husband had warned her against bringing a sister or friend in their house.

“There are sisters who have been spoilt by in laws. It is good that the man has told her and she should be close to him. She should not allow them at their house,” Bi Msafwari advised.

On her part, panelist Miriam Migomba said it is also upon a man to have self-control and be able to draw the line between his wife and her sisters and friends.